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I want to educate some people.

Journal Entry: Wed Sep 12, 2012, 11:23 PM


I want to educate some people.

If you decide to read, thank you. I hope no one takes offense to this and has an open mind when reading. If you don't read this, fine. Just don't be surprised if you end up doing what I'm about to explain, you get snapped at for it somewhere down the road.

It is common curtousy to not question someone you don't really know. Right?

For example:

You're walking down the street and see a gentleman in a wheelchair with cuts and scars all over.

Typical initial reaction: Oh, that person has been through something to make him that way. Try not to stare and continue about your business.

You wouldn't run up to that stranger and ask in their face, "HEY MAN. WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU? WHAT ARE ALL THOSE MARKS ON YOUR SKIN? WHY ARE YOU MISSING A LEG? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOUR ARM? WHY ARE YOU SO WEIRD LOOKING?"


So...
tell me...
Why would you do it on the internet...?


Is it because it's the internet and you feel like you can just ask away whatever you want without the consequences of hurting someone's feelings? Are you even thinking at all when you ask these things? Or do you just not give a shit and just want answers to ease your curiosity?

Understood, people may care and want to know so they can help, but it's common sense that the person with something different already knows that they are different. You don't have to point it out or question it as if it's something bad. Just like you wouldn't go up to a random handicapped person and ask things to their face.


You simply don't need to ask.

Why?

Because it's common courtesy.

It's being polite.

It's keeping your nose out of places it doesn't belong.

Curiously asking about it is risking hurting someone's feelings. Usually people don't want to risk hurting another person's feelings, however, "curiosity kills the cat" as they say. & people still stick their nose where it doesn't belong despite knowing that they could be hurting someone's feelings in the process.


Would you like people.. friends.. family.. strangers.. to constantly point out, "Hey, what is wrong with your face? What is wrong with your skin? Ew." Etc.


I do not fucking think so.


So stop and think before you go and question what is "wrong" with someone's body.
There is absolutely NOTHING wrong. There may be cuts or scars, burns or bruises, but there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with a person because of it.

So stop asking as if it's a problem.

It's not.

It's just how people are sometimes.
They can't help it if they have eczema, extreme acne, missing a limb, have to wear an eye patch (no kids, I'm not referring to Ciel), or have to be in a wheelchair, & so on.

Respect the fact that they are unique, but don't point it out so damn much. It's not like they have no fucking clue about their own body. It's not like they don't have to deal with seeing their own body every single day and have to cope with accepting themselves or have low self-esteem already. People have gone through Hell and back. You pointing it out & questioning it does NOT help.


If you have read this far, thank you. I appreciate it & I hope you learned something or already knew not to ask such things to people out of respect.
& apologies for the foul language. But really, I want you to understand my frustration. This journal isn't even about me. It's about everyone I know & love who have to deal with these things daily. I want to wrap them in a bubble and protect them from stupidly curious people, but I simply can't. The best I can do is educate as many people as I can.

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:iconmint-bear:
You and your thoughts are inspirational and freaking refreshing to see. 
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Lacy-Delirium Oct 17, 2012  Student General Artist
I know exactly what you mean. I have had people come up to me and ask questions as well and it is not fun, to put it lighty. -Isn't up to sharing openly here, but fully understands the point you are making-
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kittyxmice Sep 23, 2012  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Amen hun.
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KaitoNagisa Sep 20, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
I agree 100% with this journal.
Sadly, this world is so big and selfish, I know at least more than one people is going to ignore it, and continue being bastards to people.
I was not educated like that. Be it on the internet or outside, you should never talk badly or point out someone's imperfections, i mean, no one's perfect.
I don't know how they can keep thinking so highly of them when they point out something in someone's persona.
I sometimes act all pridefull and powerfull and stuff, but that's just when I roleplay, and i still do not hurt other people.
It hurts me to hurt other people.
And it should also hurt those who do this, this abomination of being jerks to people's persona.

I love your journal, and way of being so honest and educated, people like us, good people, are only little on this world.
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:iconcherryblossom16:
I have a personal similar problem with my face too. I've been dealing with it for years now and have to go to treatment every month. Thankfully is slowly going away but I've been having to deal with people through the years being rude about it, being afraid to sit next to me because of it. It's not even contagious and people act like total dicks about it. Recently someone went over to me and asked me "If you eat this or do this, do you get that?" and I felt horrible because the person was a total stranger, I mean if someone close to me was curious or whatever then it might have been easier to deal with but I just felt 10x lower about myself than I already do. I'm sorry your friend has to deal with those kind of things too. It truly is horrible.
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WhiteNightVII Sep 17, 2012  Hobbyist General Artist
Very beautiful post. <3 And you don’t have to apologize for the foul language dear. There are some things that just need to be said. >_> I also know what it’s like to be bullied and picked on. In high school I was accused of being a lesbian along with my cousin (not that that’s a bad accusation LOL but homophobia can be quite dangerous) because we were always together and neither of us wasted our time chasing after guys. I had other interests and I was an all around nerd so I was focused on going to college and creating art. People can be so hateful towards others who are perceived as different because they are ‘conditioned by the system.’ So like you said, all we can do is try to educate as many people as possible.
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secretlibra39 Sep 17, 2012
omg ikr? I'll admit I use to do that but i stopped after making one of my (now) friends cry. i didnt realized how i came off before but now i just let people explain when THEY bring stuff up. before that i just take my time to get to know them and enjoy learned new things aboutr them ^^
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UniqueEnigma Sep 17, 2012  Student General Artist
Those who seem blind see the most in people..
Men whom insist they are wise are the biggest of fools

You wrapped this up rather nicely, and I say that the profanity was needed. Today's generation seems to have someone getting upset or sticking a knife in their heart to figure out "Ohh, so that's what I'm doing wrong" I still don't understand cyber bullying, to me those who use their own name are hurting their own image, and becoming even more ugly, and those using fake accounts are not only ugly on the inside, they are cowards too.
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:iconmochineko42:
so many feels
Why must this be so true?!
I've got this thing called vitiligo that in a short story, screws with the coloration in your skin, so pretty much i have patches of skin mostly on my knees, feet, elbows with no color at all, white as printer paper. I've had so many people just com up to me and make rude remarks about me bleaching my skin, when 1. I do not bleach my skin and 2. You don't know me, you don't know if I bleach my skin or just have some rare skin thingymerhur

Thanks Lala, Every time I see something of yours especially the things like this, my faith in humanity restores itself a little c:
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